Is "lack of willpower" a problem for you? At New Year's did you lay out a number of changes you were going to make "this year" and then start finding yourself "without the willpower" to make them happen? One of the most common reasons people give for failing to change something about themselves -- or for not even trying to change -- is that they just don't have enough "willpower". But the idea that large doses of "willpower" is the most important characteristic you need for change is just not true.   more »